Have you ever avoided a career or business opportunity because it required you to speak publicly?  Did you ever have a great idea you wanted to share in a group setting but didn’t because of your fear of speaking in front of a group of people?

You are not alone in the fear of public speaking.  In my travels, I have seen where the fear of public speaking have kept otherwise very successful people in all walks of life from achieving their full potential.  When you let this fear dominate your life, you lose out on promotions, business opportunities, community activities, and most of all self-confidence.

The following are seven powerful secrets to empowering you to overcome your fear of public speaking and achieving a new level of success in your career, your business, and your life:

1. Ask Yourself the Important Question

Ask yourself, “Where does my fear come from and is it real?”  Was there a public speaking opportunity in the past that you think didn’t go well or that you felt was poorly prepared?  Maybe you had to stand up in front of your classmates in high school or college and someone made what you perceived as a negative comment concerning your presentation.  Maybe you gave a good speech but you started to over analyze every detail of the speech.

First, realize that whatever happened did so at another time and place and you are no longer that person.  With new experiences, you have grown into a more confident person with much to offer.  Second, embrace feedback, extract the true areas of improvement from the feedback and work to improve your public speaking ability.  Be honest and fair with yourself and determine if the feedback is coming from someone who is qualified to give quality feedback.  I had one presentation skills student whose manager told her she was a poor speaker because she moved her hands and arms during the presentation.  Was the manager giving qualified feedback?   Doubtful.  Yet, this manager’s feedback affected this employee in a negative way for years until the employee became my coaching student.

Again, separate qualified feedback from unqualified feedback and learn from it.  Also, don’t allow negative public speaking situations that happen in the past apply to your present or future public speaking opportunities.

2. Face Your Fear of Public Speaking

The fastest way to overcome any fear, much less the fear of public speaking, is to face your fear and attack it. Look for and embrace opportunities to make presentations.  Start with non-threatening opportunities such as your children’s school meeting or a non-work related situation and work your way up to more important, high pressure situations such as work meetings.

Realize that each time you speak is an opportunity to improve your speaking ability.  Look at your public speaking skills as a muscle.  The more you exercise your public speaking muscle, the stronger it becomes and you will improve your speaking abilities.

Go into each public speaking opportunity with a clear set of goals.  Maybe for your first speech, you may have a goal of eliminating “hums” and “ahs.”  For another speech you may have a goal of completing your speech with a powerful ending.

3. Visualize Your Public Speaking Success

Invest time the night before you speak to visualize what a successful speech looks, sounds, and feels like and how you will feel while giving it.  If you don’t see it yourself, it won’t happen.  Most presentations can be dramatically improved just by investing time ahead of the presentation to visualize a successful outcome.

4. Master the Material

Invest the time to know what you are presenting.  Invest time to rehearse several variations of your speech.  Rehearse your speech as if something goes wrong.  What if your PowerPoint goes down, you forget a section in your speech, or someone heckles you?  How will you react?  If you know your material well enough, you will be able to overcome any presentation challenge.

5. Master Your Public Speaking Mind

During a group coaching session, a presenter started speaking, made a mistake and promptly announced, “I hate speaking in public!”  In this instance, she did not manage her public speaking mind, and let her fear of public speaking take over her performance.

When you make negative statements concerning public speaking, it will reinforce your fear of public speaking.  Take the time to replace negative statements with positive public speaking affirmations.

6. Take Time to Analyze Your Performance

In most cases, we are our own toughest critics when speaking. Whenever you speak, videotape or audiotape your presentations, sit down, and honestly analyze your performance.  Once you start to record your presentations, you will realize that some of the issues you were worried about aren’t in your speech and you will instantly see areas of improvement and address them accordingly.  As the old saying goes, “The video doesn’t lie.”

Ask for feedback from people you respect and who can give you quality, supportive feedback that will empower you to want apply the feedback in your next speech.  Before your speech, tell the person you ask to give you feedback what your public speaking goals are and what you are working to improve.

Once you analyze your areas of improvement, immediately go out and exercise your public speaking muscle and apply the improvement.

7. Reward Yourself

Reward yourself for any improvements in your public speaking skills.  The reward is up to you, but make sure to immediately reward yourself.

Bonus Public Speaking Secret: If you forget a word or a phrase during your speech, never apologize and keep speaking as though nothing happened.  Unless the audience has a detailed transcript of your speech, they won’t know what you forgot.  Don’t let the fear of forgetting something in your speech keep you from giving great speeches.

Now, go out and exercise your public speaking muscle to give outstanding presentations.  When you apply the seven secrets to overcoming your fear of public speaking, you will realize more opportunities and gain a new level of confidence.

Ed Sykes is a highly sought after leadership, motivation, stress management, customer service, and team building expert, success coach, professional speaker, and author of “Jumpstart Your Greatness.”
You can e-mail him at mailto:esykes@thesykesgrp.com, or call him at (757) 427-7032.
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Quiet Your Public Speaking Anxiety

Does your forehead perspire at the mere thought of speaking in public? Public speaking anxiety is one of the most common fears afflicting people.

 

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It stems in large part out of concern we may have of how other people think about us. Will we screw up? What if we forget what we were going to say? Or lose our place in our script. What if our voice breaks, or we freeze in our tracks.

Well the truth of the matter is that any of these things could happen. And if you’re lucky a meteor will fall though the roof and relieve you of your agony. The “what if” game can be paralyzing. If you have a serious problem you may need to seek professional assistance just as you would if you were actually paralyzed. But for most people, the “what if’s” are manageable. The key is to focus less on the “what if’s” and more on your message.

In most circumstances, you need not memorize every word of your speech. Instead focus on the content of your material. Know what you want the audience to get from your presentation, and memorize your outline rather than the words.

Practice explaining each of the points in your outline over and over, out loud or just in your head. Each time you do this it may be different. But you will discover a variety of ways of saying the same thing. Then when actually in front of the audience, you can cover each point in succession talking not from memory, but from a reservoir of memories which will remove the fear of loosing your place in a script or forgetting a line.

Perhaps the best tip about dealing with public speaking anxiety is to point out that the most important participant in a speech is not the speaker, but the audience. They are the empty bucket that must be filled with the ideas you are presenting.

If you will know people in the audience, imagine giving your presentation to them individually. Then think of them in a group of other friends, and then in a section of your audience. See them with a smile on their face and an encouraging attitude. Imagine yourself giving the perfect presentation. This is one time when positive expectations will do wonders. Your own positive thoughts can go a long way is quieting public speaking anxiety.

And while you may imagine yourself giving a perfect presentation, the odds are you won’t. And that’s okay. Accept the fact that even professional speakers stub their toes on occasion. Don’t sweat the small stuff. If you lose your place in a prepared text, just pause, take a deep breath and take a moment to find it. The audience isn’t going anywhere. They will wait. Then carry on.

Public speaking is like any other skill. The more often you give presentations the easier it will be to overcome you public speaking anxiety.

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Overcome the Fear of Speaking in Public

The most effective way to overcome the fear of speaking in public is to speak in public. While the first few times may seem a bit challenging, you will discover the process to be a liberating one in the long run.

 

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The fear of speaking publicly is one of the most common and deepest felt fears in the general population, and yet when most people actually do it, it turns out to be not so bad.

Very few people self-combust on stage. And while some people may forget a key phrase or even and entire section of their speech, the audience is often oblivious to the fact.

And if it is something that is noticeable, the audience tends to be very forgiving. Half of them because they are glad it’s you up there and not them. They give you credit for daring to do what they are afraid of. The other half, who have experience talking are as likely to remember how scared they were when they first started out. They will tend to see themselves, and identify with you. And even if there is a boor or even two in the crowd, ignore them. Their opinion isn’t worth didly.

Good preparation is your best bet if you are exhibiting anything more that normal fear of speaking in public.

Start with your content. What is the single most important message you want your audience to take away from your presentation. That should be highlighted in you speech title, the introduction and your closing statement.

Supporting points, three to five in most shorter speeches should all be supportive of the main argument. Memorize your opening and closing, but not the main body of your speech. Fear of forgetting a line can be eliminated by not needing to memorize lines.

Instead for each of your main points, rehearse by telling you audience what you want them to know about each point. You can say it differently each time you do it. In fact, that’s a good idea as it will help you come up with different ideas as to how to say it best.

You need to be clear on why each support point is in your presentation and then explain that to your audience within the bookends of your introduction and close.

In the introduction, you tell them what your going to tell them. In the body you actually tell them, following the bullet points of your outline, and in the conclusion your tell your audience what you want them to do about it. This is called to call to action. Then you recap by telling them what you told them all over again with one final call to action.

This basic formula has helped countless people overcome their fear of speaking in public.

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You’ve been tapped to give an address to your annual horseshoe club’s banquet and find yourself experiencing high anxiety speech fears. What do you do?

 

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Here are six quick tips.

Decide on one main message you want to deliver. If they forgot everything else, what one item would you want them to take away. Once you decide on that, you can build your entire presentation around it.

Focus on your audience, not on how you perform. Think about how they well benefit from the information you are going to provide. How they will use it, why it will be important for them. Even if it’s not earth shatteringly important, your message will help them expand their appreciation of your theme. You are giving them a gift of your insights. They will be pleased to receive your input.

Your not going to be perfect, so don’t sweat the small stuff. Even is you have a big gaff, forget a key line or loose your place, so what. Your audience has seen it before and if anything will feel more embarrassed for you that you will. And what’s more they will forget it a lot sooner as well.

Before during and after, keep in mind positive thoughts. This is one area where positive mental attitude really does help, and the converse hurts.

Take some deep breaths before it’s your time to speak. A couple of positive self affirmations before hand help many people. Something like, “I like Myself” or “I’m going to knock them dead,” etc. can help give you that mental boost just before you walk on stage.

In general, I recommend against memorizing any but formal speeches. But do memorize your beginning and ideally your end. For the rest of it, remember your key topics. Keep a note card with the outline in bullet points, if necessary. And then just discuss each point from the heart in your own words. This can help give your presentation a nice natural flow.

Of course you will want to run though those thoughts a number of time and try out different ways of saying them. During your actual speech, you will borrow those points that flow together the easiest.

Another key ideas is to harness the power of your high anxiety speech. Convert nervous leg twitching into an excuse to walk away from the lectern or podium to approach the audience. On the other hand, if its trembling palms you need to combat feel free to anchor one on the deck, podium or lectern, but keep the other free to make gestures. Ideally, switch hands after a while or let go altogether. With practice the natural adrenaline rush of speaking in public can be used to give you an “edge” in your presentation. Try to focus the anxiety speech events cause you into a productive force.

Finally, identify a few friendly faces in various sections of the audience. Move your eyes from one to the other. And visualize them smiling at you, even if they aren’t. This will cause you to have good eye contact with your audience and will allow you to see positive feedback as you scan the room

In the long run, the best cure for high anxiety speech fears is to get experience giving talks. Each additional speaking occasion will reduce the anxiety level, until you actually look forward to your next speech.

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Don’t Let the Fear of Public Speaking Stop You

The fear of public speaking is a common trait, and can become a personal roadblock affecting your career and social life unless confronted head on.

 

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The ability to effectively communicate ideas and concepts to multiple people is a critical leadership skill, one which when mastered can help you advance in whatever career you seek to pursue, whether public speaking is a large or small part of the day to day tasks.

A group leader within any organization must be able to communicate that organizations immediate and long term objectives to the assembled team. This communication may be as simple as the days assignments, or more complex outlining corporate strategy and seeking employee input on critical functions.

In any of these communications, there are always at least two major components, the message and the delivery. The source of many people’s fear of public speaking springs from their inexperience with one or the other of these two elements.

The better you understand the material, the easier it is to communicate it. The more confidently you present the material, the more likely the message will get through to your audience.

If you are in an entry or mid level to level job, your ability to communicate with your fellow workers and help them understand and perform their tasks is a characteristic your employer will appreciate.

Recognizing this, it’s imperative that you work to build your personal skills. The first step is to focus on your audience. The odds are that you know some of your fellow workers better than your manager or boss does. If nothing else, you probably get to hear some of their franker feedback.

Much that is said in the workplace and in every day life is misspoken and/or misheard. When you notice such circumstances think to yourself how it could have been better said to communicate the message. If the speaker is speaking over someone’s head or using jargon, imagine how you might have said it better.

The goal of public speaking it to communicate, and if you pay attention to how your co-workers or friends react to someone else’s presentation, you will begin to pick up useful tips on how to be more effective yourself in a similar situation.

So the speaking task requires not only knowing the material, but also the audience. Your goal is to connect the dots between the two.

The second source of fear is that of appearing foolish. If you have a handle on your main message and focus on your audience, the odds are that you won’t actually have any problem with this. And if you do, take solace in the fact that people’s memories are really quite short. At the worst, you may get some ribbing from your friends. But no worse than if you were to fall off the proverbial horse. The secret is to get back on, and seek out another chance to speak again.

You will be surprised at how forgiving your audience will be. After all, many of them share your fear of public speaking and will sympathize with you. And the experienced speakers in your audience will smile inwardly as they recall how they too, at one time shared the same fear of public speaking. The only difference being that they, like you had the gumption to actually get up and speak, despite their fear of public speaking. These are the people who will recognize you for your efforts and keep you in mind when advancement opportunities present themselves.

Effective communications is important in all organizations. Your willingness to overcome your fear of public speaking is one of the surest ways to advance within any organization.

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